Monday, July 18, 2011


(This was my first blog published 2 years ago.  Every day this week and next , I'll pull one from the archives so that new readers can get a back glance as to what Kat's Pause is all about.  Just pop in here each day for a sampling!)

Not that I can spare any part of my mind, still I plan to share bits and pieces with you.

Years ago I asked our youngest daughter, Katy, "What do you like best about our family?"

"Hm-mmmm," she pondered. Then she lit up. Speaking for her older siblings, Kimberly and Kent, she piped, "We have a lot of laughness!"

Laughness. A good word. And true. But as a family, we've also shed our share of tears. I should have known life would not be solely the fairy tale of brides' dreams. That mingling of joy and sorrow began on our wedding day.

Hours before Doug and I married, the phone rang. But I didn't hear the phone ring. What I did hear was Mama crying, talking softly with Daddy, secluded in their bedroom. I figured someone dropped the wedding cake so I eased their door open. She sat on Dad's knee and their faces told me it was more serious.

They were discussing whether or not to tell me the bad news before the ceremony. My entrance made the decision.

"Granddaddy died."

Suddenly. Unexpectedly. Mama's father was gone.

I sat on Daddy's other knee and we cried together. Such sorrow.

On my happiest day? What do we do now? Wedding? Funeral?

My wise, godly father chose for us, "Today there's a reunion taking place in heaven. Your grandfather loved your grandmother more than life. It's a happy day there.

And we're going to have a union and happy day here too."

Eternal perspective. Clearly focused.

Life has thrown that Duke's mixture at us over the years. Sometimes the "laughness" and tears come at the same moment. Kinda like that famous scene in the graveyard with Sally Fields and friends in Steel Magnolias.

That's what I'll post...bits and pieces of life. You'll laugh for sure, may feel a heart tug now and then, probably thank God you're not part of our weird family and may even get a bit of biblical wisdom
from lessons we've learned.

God's the center of our family. Our three children now each have four kids of their own. (Well, Katy's fourth is on the way! ETA September.) They all love God passionately. We're blessed to be a blessing. Hopefully we can share with you from our many



  1. I love it! What a beautiful way to start your new married life together, sharing the day that you and Doug were united and your grandparents were re-united in heaven. Thanks for sharing a bit of you.. I can't wait for the next piece of life you share with us!

    Blessings to you!


  2. KAthy your post are always uplifting

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  4. Hi Kathy,
    Brenda Mitton Pelletier commented on your link.
    Brenda wrote:

    "Your Dad was such a wise man...he always had a good answer for everything. I LOVE the picture of him with you. You share the same smile!"

  5. Great story, and a great way to honor your grandfather. I'm sure you did exactly as he would have wanted you to do.